You cannot have your cake and eat it – so is the case of having a casual and long-term relationship. It is almost impossible to have a casual and long – term relationship simultaneously as the terms in both cases are different and trying to have a mix will only lead to devastating outcomes with the parties involved having their hearts broken and emotions smashed against the wall. This is not taking away the possibility of a one-night stand leading to a serious relationship; it only tries to state the difference in both relationships.
A careful consideration of the features of both types of relationship explains how difficult it is to have a blend of both worlds. In a casual dating relationship, both parties are usually not “serious”, at least not as those in a committed relationship. A long-term commitment involves the investment of time, money, support, and of course, love, a feature that is almost completely absent in casual dating.
Long-term commitment are usually monogamous, a principle that defeats the primary aim of casual dating. While parties in a long-term commitment tend to be monogamous and would prefer to be and stay with their partner alone, casual dating is actually for those that cherish variety and want to have as many as possible sexual partners. This makes it pretty difficult to have a mix of both relationships.
While a long-term commitment would normally require some physical and emotional intimacy, casual dating relationships have no strings attaching parties in the relationship and it is all about fun with little or no emotions involved.
This goes to say that the love and trust that exists in long-term commitments is completely thrown in the thrash in the case of casual dating. Casual dating allows either party to have multiple sexual partners with no feeling of guilt or jealousy by the other party while long-term commitments naturally forbids the participation of either party in several sexual activities with any other party outside the relationship.
In as much as these differences exist, some persons have been able to successfully manage their casual dating relationships into long-term commitments with both parties living happily ever after.
It is always advisable for parties in a relationship to state the terms clearly in the early stages of the relationship to avoid any misunderstanding that might erupt.
Whether you decide to go casual or choose the line of a long-term commitment, the most important thing is your happiness and it should not be compromised for any other thing.